Girfriend might be cheating…?
Ok, heres the situation:
I am deployed right now, and have not communicated with my gf in a month. In the begining months, we spoke over the phone, over email, and through letters all the time. Now its been quite, and whenever I call, I get no answer–she dosent even email me a reply. So I start investigating…
Our shared netflix account has not been used in over a month–something she has used everday until then. I sent her flowers and called on easter, and still nothing! My family has not heard from her, and I have a really bad feeling overall.
Ok and now facebook:
I find this weird game/survey whatever thing called smileys thats posted on her wall that says the results of what ever she did are "Im feelng naughty tonight!" with a winking smiley face and her comment of "somebody help!!!" this is followed by a new friend named bobby. Then there is a message of her stating that everyone needs to stop being mean and leave her alone. Also on her wall is a change in the "interested in" part of her profile (which shows men now). I look at the top of her profile and her "in a relationship with" part is missing! (yet doent say single/avaliable either).
I go to her pictures and my stomach really sinks.
She has pictures of her, another guy, and this bobby guy (pictures are dated before she had him as a friend btw) at a lake drinking beer.
One picture is of them too laughing which she must have taken. the caption reads "lil bro likes the tit action! he doent blush!" Im like ???
The second is of her SITTING IN HIS LAP with the "bobby likes this" tag on it.
And the third is of her in a bikini posing with her back arched facing the camera and hands behind her head. (yes its pretty provoc)
Also I have asked her to send me things I need/want which she hasnt.
She also used to be bad with drugs before she met me, and Im afraid that makes her suspectable to inflence.
Optimistically, maybe shes just too busy too watch movies (oh we live in the country–not alot of nearby activities), maybe she was just posing for fun (she used to model), and maybe she was trying to take a really close picture with the guy or something.
But I cant get over all this because shes the jealous type and if I did any version of this she would become ENRAGED.
I also looked up the top 10 signs of infidelity and found the previous info to fill in 9 of those.
Am I being paranoid???
Do I exploit this?
Is this obvious or am I over analyzing?
I still have about 4 months to go…not good stress to have on top of whats already going on
Hi, im really sorry, but it looks like she is cheating on you. There is still a chance that she isn’t though, so i wouldn’t take any radical actions until you hear the truth from her. She doesn’t deserve you, anyway, you seem like a good guy that could get better. : D